Emotionless Men
Why don't men cry???
There's this stigma in society that men aren't supposed to cry or show emotion because it's a sign of weakness. We teach boys at very young age to suppress what they feel and to "suck it up". So from the beginning of their lives men are taught to be numb, to hide their pain, and devalue their internal experiences......but is this healthy? If men or boys live their life emotionless what effects will it have on their wellbeing?? Will they just cry on the inside with no one to feel their pain????
Humans cry, animals cry, babies cry, mothers cry, even Jesus wept, so why can't boys cry?? Are they not human too? We are all born with the same components: we have a mind, body, soul, and spirit. The soul is what makes us who we are. The soul is the emotions, the intellect, the will, and desires of a man (human). By nature a man (human) reflects his soul by the way he lives and the experiences he feels. We can only realize our world by acknowledging every part of our being. So how can a man be a man if he is taught to deny his soul. How can a man grow or heal if he can't or doesn't know how to acknowledge his emotions. Yes a man needs to heal!!! Just like women, men experience things that require them to heal from, like molestation, child abuse, emotional abuse, abandonment, etc. I believe many reasons why we have so many absentee fathers or cold husbands, is because they were taught not to have emotion or not feel their hurt. How can men be present for others when they can't be present with themselves. I'm pretty sure when a man locks himself in a room, by himself he breaks down, he cries, he weeps... at least the men that are not afraid to cry or bare their pain. BUT can you imagine how many men are living life numb???? Men suppress so many of their emotions and experiences just so that they can fit the image of what they are supposed to be. And I know this not only hurts men but women too. I have had a few relationships in the past where it was difficult to connect with that man due to his lack of emotion. Also, I had to deal with men who were hurting and as a result hurt me due to their inability to resolve their inner issues. However, those things we suppress sometimes turn around and become our demons..... ....and then we sit and wonder why 🤔
Emotional pain is just as real as physical pain, Don't go through life hurting just because society sees it as weak.
So how does a man heal??? How does anyone heal? ....well in order for a man to heal he has to acknowledge that he is hurting. He has to confront his wounds, his disappointment, his loss. You can't heal from anything you don't reveal. Once a person or a man can acknowledge they are broken then He can rebuild himself. Sometimes its hard for a man to do this on his own. Men are not like women. However, it is still possible. The first step is to be willing to accept those emotions that are hard to accept.
I write this to encourage men to heal!
P.S. it's ok for boys to cry!!
I want to invite my readers living in Fort Lauderdale, Florida to watch the upcoming play "Boys Don't cry" on September 29th, 2018, written by Colossia Butts. This story is based on true events and deals with the emotions and pain of a man! You won't want to miss it, see the image below for more details.
There's this stigma in society that men aren't supposed to cry or show emotion because it's a sign of weakness. We teach boys at very young age to suppress what they feel and to "suck it up". So from the beginning of their lives men are taught to be numb, to hide their pain, and devalue their internal experiences......but is this healthy? If men or boys live their life emotionless what effects will it have on their wellbeing?? Will they just cry on the inside with no one to feel their pain????
Humans cry, animals cry, babies cry, mothers cry, even Jesus wept, so why can't boys cry?? Are they not human too? We are all born with the same components: we have a mind, body, soul, and spirit. The soul is what makes us who we are. The soul is the emotions, the intellect, the will, and desires of a man (human). By nature a man (human) reflects his soul by the way he lives and the experiences he feels. We can only realize our world by acknowledging every part of our being. So how can a man be a man if he is taught to deny his soul. How can a man grow or heal if he can't or doesn't know how to acknowledge his emotions. Yes a man needs to heal!!! Just like women, men experience things that require them to heal from, like molestation, child abuse, emotional abuse, abandonment, etc. I believe many reasons why we have so many absentee fathers or cold husbands, is because they were taught not to have emotion or not feel their hurt. How can men be present for others when they can't be present with themselves. I'm pretty sure when a man locks himself in a room, by himself he breaks down, he cries, he weeps... at least the men that are not afraid to cry or bare their pain. BUT can you imagine how many men are living life numb???? Men suppress so many of their emotions and experiences just so that they can fit the image of what they are supposed to be. And I know this not only hurts men but women too. I have had a few relationships in the past where it was difficult to connect with that man due to his lack of emotion. Also, I had to deal with men who were hurting and as a result hurt me due to their inability to resolve their inner issues. However, those things we suppress sometimes turn around and become our demons..... ....and then we sit and wonder why 🤔
Emotional pain is just as real as physical pain, Don't go through life hurting just because society sees it as weak.
So how does a man heal??? How does anyone heal? ....well in order for a man to heal he has to acknowledge that he is hurting. He has to confront his wounds, his disappointment, his loss. You can't heal from anything you don't reveal. Once a person or a man can acknowledge they are broken then He can rebuild himself. Sometimes its hard for a man to do this on his own. Men are not like women. However, it is still possible. The first step is to be willing to accept those emotions that are hard to accept.
I write this to encourage men to heal!
P.S. it's ok for boys to cry!!
I want to invite my readers living in Fort Lauderdale, Florida to watch the upcoming play "Boys Don't cry" on September 29th, 2018, written by Colossia Butts. This story is based on true events and deals with the emotions and pain of a man! You won't want to miss it, see the image below for more details.
- QueenPoetLove
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