There's a Gift in Rejection

Being rejected hurts,  it cuts deep,  it stings, it makes you angry,  sad , and even feel invaluable . …..We all experience rejection at one point in our lives, in one way or another. We are rejected by our parents, our siblings,  friends, family,  and most of the time by our lovers. Being rejected  by someone  you love is painful because the only thing humans want most is to feel accepted and wanted by the people we love or care about. Rejection makes us feel inadequate or like we are not good enough or something is wrong with us. However,  as I get older I have learned rejection isnt always a bad thing and sometimes why we are rejected has nothing to do with us ( ....and sometimes it does). Some people will reject you because of their own insecurities. BUT being rejected isn't always the end of the world. Don't let rejection throw you off or hinder you from happiness or loving yourself.  Rejection is a gift.  Although it hurts to be cast away or pushed away,  rejection often times reveals something about ourselves or others. It's our choice to either learn from it or not. I am very aware that when we are rejected it makes one want to seek revenge or have unforgiveness in our heart for that person.( ..but when we take that route we only hurt ourselves more)..Jesus was rejected by thousands of people and even crucified for who he was. Hitler was also rejected for his cruel actions.  Although this two examples are completely opposite of each other,  they both display forms of rejection that we experience daily.  Rejection teaches you more about yourself than about others. Rejection can teach you who you really are and who you aren't. Its an experience designed for self-reflection and self-evaluation.  Sometimes when we are rejected by loved ones or family, it can be due to things they are struggling within themselves and because they don't know how to express their inner turmoil they push others away in cruel ways. While on the other hand,  some people may push you away because they are unsatisfied with your treatment towards them.  In any form of rejection there is a underlying cause or effect.  I don't  think there’s a special way to deal with the burn off rejection……but there’s definitely a restoration that occurs after we have  been rejected.  Rejection causes  a person to experience  many negative feelings about themselves and even resentment  towards the person  rejecting them. However, acceptance of self is the result of rejection ( if you don't become bitter after rejection.) We must accept that not everyone will accept our flaws or love us the way we want to be loved.  We must accept that it’s  ok and that we are still  worthy to be loved... …we must accept ourselves and where we are mentally, emotionally,  spiritually.  We must accept change.  Rejection is the catalyst to change. If you use rejection to serve you to either make you better, to learn from,  and grow from, then you found a gift in something negative. 

P.s. there's a gift in rejection 

-QueenPoetLove

For Him. For Her. Forever Love.