Fake friends

so let's talk about fake friends. We all some people in our lives that don't plan on staying for a long time. Friendship is so overrated in society. The term is used so loosely these days. But really friendships are just as important as romantic relationships, only because they have the power to influence your life in a positive or negative way. However, I am so tired of people calling me a friend without a real intention or desire to take on that role. Friendship is a role you choose to play in someone's life, through good or bad. And most friends are only your friends when they agree with you, but the moment you disagree with them or say something they don't want to hear, or don't things their way, the friendship ends. Some people are really just in your life for convenience. Some people seek you only for their benefit and nothing else. while other people seek friendships just to fill a void. If someone is your friend there are three reasons why: (1) it's mutual (2) they are benefiting from you (3) fill voids and mask insecurities. The first type of friendship is a real friendship because the two of you agreed to be friends, not just one person imposing on you because of who you are. In a real friendship you can be honest with each other, you can make mistakes, you can be yourself, and vice versa without judgement, criticism, or punishment. This means you can be honest and speak your truth without being penalized or your friends being shady or petty in return. if someone stops being your friend for telling the truth or because you failed to to do things how they think they should be done, then they were never your friend. These people want puppets not friends.In a real friendship there is no back-talking behind your back and definitely no hatred or jealousy. When there is a problem you work it out despite the disagreement. Fake friends have no intention on keeping friendships so the very moment you are not what they thought you should be or don't what they want you to do, they walk away. that's why we have to be careful who we call friends. Because sometimes people can outwardly be your "friend" but inwardly be jealous of you because you are everything they are not. Some Friendships can be just as unhealthly for the reason of the second type of friendships.The second kind of friendships are those that are taking away from you because they are benefiting from what you have to offer and they don't give anything back in return.They are your friend because they use you for your talents, gifts, or skills, they use you for companionship or to not to be lonely, or whatever they can get out of you but not because you both have something to offer each other. These are the worst type of friendships because they take away from your life and with time leave you depleted. runaway from these friendships lol. the last type of friendships are those that are used to mask insecurities or fill voids. this kind of friendship are people that are hurting inside or broken inside and use you to hide from themselves or want people to join their pitty party without the intention of changing or becoming better. These friendships aren't real because those people are not real with themselves. Real friendships are about growth. when you are friends with someone you are supposed to grow, mature, and evolve with each other just like a relationship. A friendship is one where you are helping each other become better people while enjoying each other's company.The worst thing you can do is surround yourself with people who are not growing because they will stunt your growth. Make sure you have real friends. Just because you drink, party, and hang out with people don't make them "friends". Make sure you have people in your corner that uplift and encourage you to be a better person. Real friends don't just have your back, they have your spirit. Real friends help you grow mentally, physically, and emotionally. Real friends support your dreams, your talents, your gifts, anything you do they are there to support it. You can have a good time with your friends, but what are your friends doing to improve themselves? What are they doing to improve you? Growth together is more valuable than time spent together. I don't want no friends that aren't adding to my growth as a person, that's idle friendship.... anything that isn't growing is dead. surround yourself with people that are growing. Real friendship is hard to find, so when you find it make it worth it. P.S. No fake friends!----QueenPoetLove1